Domestic Violence
Posted by tolliver in My Prerogative, National & International on June 21st, 2009
One of the things I have never understood, and here’s how I put it, what is the point of hitting or beating something that is not equally as physical as you are to either withstand that attack? If you can beat someone you challenge and you know you can, what is the point of doing it? I’m not a perfect person, far from it - but what does that say about the suspect? I can see if Mrs. Turner after being attacked pumels Mr. Turner into a corner from an Even Steven, and maybe not even then. I can see if on some days Mrs. Turner attacks Mr. Turner, because that would be fair. And I don’t mean just attack him and he wins, she attacks and he’s hovered in an area, scared as hell, because he couldn’t stop the ferociousness of the onslaught. And then what’s the use of that?
And because I have NEVER struck a woman and never was raised around a battered environment, because there is no reason to, how do you strike in violent rage, a female who you said you loved at one time, OR even if you don’t love them, you’re getting a performance of sexual activity from them, and acts of companionship? How do you try to destroy the mother of your children? How? To beat a woman, is similar to trampling a bed of flowers - Let’s say the flowers didn’t bloom the right time, or they didn’t become the color you had hoped for, or the wind blew them down and you had to splinter them, but instead you stomp them? It’s like punching a picture because of what the picture made you think.
Let’s look at the success of animals and insects. Does the ant male, beat up the ant female? Does the duck man, pounce upon the duck lady with the tenaciousness of a wolf or a fox? Generally, does the male species make any attempt to tragic the female species in the animal and insect world? No. Sure there are renegades - but you see the world for that behavior? Renegade. When a LION trounces the wild deer family - we expect that, that’s nature. Women don’t expect to be punched like a boxing bag. Now don’t wrong me for this, for those of you who are into having pain inflicted on you - I’m not talking about you - I don’t know how you got that way - but you are not in the majority - I think I can safely say - WOMEN do not want to be violated.
And now, because I don’t have an answer - to make it go away - I ask any of the readers - what do you think? How can we eliminate this allowed behavior? What are the statistics, every minute how many? And how many deaths are the result of this? What is going to make this black-eye mark of - do you still think we fall under the category of
CIVILIZED NATION? - I think not. Not as long as this continues to be a pattern of the way we live - I think not. Your comments are welcomed.
H A P P Y F A T H E R’s D A Y!
Posted by tolliver in INSPIRATION, My Prerogative on June 20th, 2009
I’m going to ask everyone a question and see if they agree. Or actually just make a statement, which may be in question form. Do you ever wonder why there is so much HOOPLA for Mother’s Day, but when it comes to DADz, it’s short lived? Sure we are blungeoned with commercials for father’s day gifts, but even those are peppered toward the woman, isn’t she the one with the buying power, regardless of what “DAD” has to say? And with the woman becoming the breadwinner, maybe she should get the nod for dad? And in many cases she is both the dad and the mother. The other trend may be growing a tad, but it’s more the mother who plays both roles, not the father.
And here’s something - the wife, the kids, they go to DAD, to ask him for money so they can buy a gift for him, so in reality, he knows practically what the value of his gift is going to be, even if they pool their resources….. My question before I continue - …. do you think Dad has shirked a lot of his responsibilities, because he feels he has nothing to look for, when his day rolls around? Just kidding.
It was 1977 in February (and I just realized something - both my parents left in February….. wow - just now I realized that), when my father left this planet. He was a good man, to me. He was not a violent man, unless I did something that upset him, and that happened a lot until I was 9. Then a whole set of other issues developed, but he stood fast on being my father, he didn’t abandon me, and like my mother - they both could have jump-ship, but they didn’t. I was blessed. My father never hit my mother, nor do I ever remember him yelling at her. I’m sure things were not always ‘peaches & cream’ and knowing what I know about women now, my mother was a peach.
He didn’t take any nonsense from me, none at all. I don’t think I would be the man I am today, if he had left. He weathered the storm. He struggled as a child, because when his father died when he was 27, he became the father figure to his younger brothers and sisters. That has to be a tremendous burden for him, because, it’s tough to lose a parent, and then to take the responsibility of the remaining children and that wasn’t in the plan, that had to be tougher.
He said one thing to me (he said a lot of things to me, that I won’t go into but -) that I will never forget. He told me, he wanted me to be better than him. He only said it once. He only needed to say it once. The choice words he used to horse-blinder my direction, and my mother’s theory and foundation, and the environment we lived in - guided me to want to do and want to be. He was a GREAT PROVIDER and a master at discipline. He didn’t have time to play games with it - and he didn’t. He was cut and dry, and he very seldom laughed out loud. This didn’t mean he wasn’t happy, happy is not determined by the volume of the laugh, but more or less the temper of the man. Some men laugh out loud and they are serious, and other laugh out loud and they are lying. Some men are quiet but inside they are roaring, and some men roar and inside they are meek as a mouse. I think my pops was perfect. I know when he died, he was not an unhappy man. NOT. He was the best father a kid could ask for - in fact he was the best father even if the kid didn’t ask.
I say this and I mean it when I say it. There is NO man born before my father, born during my father’s existence, and no man that will be born that will be a better man, than my father was to me. I believe in my life, God has put the right ingredients in my life to help me do the best I can, and my father was one of those elements. I told my father when he was dying, as long as I’m alive - he’s alive, I told him that on his death bed.
Mr Tolliver Sr - Orrin One - from your son…. (the only 1, that I know about)
Happy Father’s Day - I think about you all the time. And I miss you - I don’t miss you hollering all the time at me - but I do miss you….. and I still love you daddy, I always will………………
Hey Kevin Chillious -
a tip of the hat to you, as a single father. Watching you helped me, when i was doing my single father thing
and HAPPY FATHER’S DAY to all the fathers - the grandfathers, the brothers who are fathers, the husbands and sons who are fathers - enjoy the day, AND enjoy the rest of your lives…… do your thing fellas - do your thing!
Didn’t You Want?
Some of you won’t know what this story is, so I will briefly tell you. If you follow me (and not on twitter), you know I like to watch the news a lot. You’ve seen stories in the past where a guy dated a woman who turned out to be his sister, but he didn’t know it - (yes on headline news - sorry, I mean HLN) - and a letter that got delivered about 24 years later - brothers who were reunited, and parents and children who come together.
The most recent story is about a man who thought he may be the boy that had been missing for over 50 years. He was not sure his parents were his real parents, and he started doing some Internet searching. There was a picture of a boy, and correct me if I’m wrong, it was the pic of the boy who was missing, and he LOOKS just like a grown up version of that boy.
He connected with a woman who was the sister of the boy….. talk about dedication - she must have really wanted to find her brother - over 50 years -
Someone did a DNA, and it came back that it was a possibility they were sister and brother. But the results of the test were not conclusive, and the FBI also did a DNA test. Their test came out negatory.
Didn’t you want this man to be the boy that was kidnapped over 50 years ago? Didn’t you? I know I did. And here’s why. HOPE - Hope is a powerful word, and has powerful ramifications. This would mean, we have chances to get to where we want to go. And time and fate can turn negatives into positives. Hope is the power of God. Hope gives you a reason to keep moving, and staying focused and determined.
Sadly, as stated above, he is not the guy. And this is where the story ends for US, but where does the story end for the woman who is seeking her brother (maybe) and where does it end for the man who was searching in the beginning.
And a personal note - just because you don’t look like your parents, don’t mean, you are not theirs…… And this -
Just because YOU LOOK like your parents, doesn’t mean you are…..
Like the JERKY BOYS said in a comedy routine……………………………
YOU NEVER KNOW
D I V E R S I O N S
Posted by tolliver in INSPIRATION, National & International on June 14th, 2009
Today is June 14th, 2009. I’m one who likes to check the news consistently and I found a new news source, America’s News HQ. On this channel, this fine Sunday, there was a report of a company that helped financed one of the foreign countries in nuclear warfare. They own the building, a main building in New York City. If you are reading this and want more facts, just Internet search some key words, and you’ll get the whole story. I don’t want this BLOG to be about that, but about all of the turns and twists that come into our world, and divert us from focusing on what needs to be concentrated on, from our viewpoint.
I’ve never been a jealous person in the way jealous is of what another person has. I don’t think I’ve ever really wanted “Jesse’s Girl” (that is one of my favorite songs by Rick Springfield), or Jesse’s car, or Jesse’s home. I never worried that another guy had 7 girlfriends, or 3 cars, or was able to live in several different areas in the country or world, and I wasn’t able to. Ever. My mother learned me (taught me of course), to be careful of what you wish for from another person’s life, because you don’t see all of their life. You may just get their three cars, and fab lifestyle, but you also get their cancer, or their lust for young children, and I said to myself - immediately - OKAY I think I got that at an early age. What she was tellling me, and this was only a one-timer, your desires, if they are incorrect, can be your destroyer, and sadly, I was not able to apply that to all the phases of my life, some of my choices have been to ruin, in a manner-of-speaking. I said all that to say this. This is not a rant against people who have things, but more-or-less, a check on YOUR direction, and what you crave, and here’s the bottom line…… how much time you spend on things that won’t help you.
LET ME REPEAT THAT LAST LINE
How much time you spend on things that won’t help you.
AND NOW THE BULK of this post and the reason.
Here are a couple of other items that have the world-a-buzz. The David Letterman joke about Willow Palin, the 14-year-old daughter of Sarah Palin, former Vice President attempt of the country, Heidi Montag, and the Swine Flu which has become a pandemic - a world crisis, hitting 74 countries, 141 deaths, and 27,700 cases…………… Here it is in a nutshell. If you and your family are not going to get the Swine Flu - keep doing what you’re doing, no need to fear, you are doing very well, don’t stop ’til you get enough and all that. I don’t even know who Heidi Montag is, how is finding out about her going to help me - why not spend that time googling, with a loved one, and bonding, and who cares about what David Letterman said about Willow or Bristol ….. who cares - here’s something that is worse. All the hatred held inside, not spoken waiting to explode.
Yes it’s true, we should be aware of our surroundings, but the amount of time we spend on the issues. If we are not a direct, or even indirect recipient of the benefits or deficits, we shouldn’t browse. We should get back on our sidewalks-of-hustle and make our positive strides toward somewhere, even if the destination is just a resting place to take a break from the normal struggles we face.
We can’t find Casey Anthony, we are not going to be involved in Kobe Bryant’s new contract after winning the basketball world championship for the Lakers with Derek Fisher…… Obama isn’t consulting with us on what he needs to do for the economy… have any of you received a call from John McCain, or Hillary? No. Do we really care if Michael Vick gets back on a team? Or the ongoing conversations with the Mid Eastern Countries, are we in on them? Have we got a pipeline on what Tiger Woods thinks about how we classify him in the racial section? We all do know he loved (and probably still does) his father and loves his mother - we got to know that, and I’m sure we all know he loves his wife, his children and loves his life - - - what else do we need to know?
WHERE ARE YOU GOING? AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING????
Sometimes things out of the headlines, will take you off the block and put you in the gutter-of-existing and “HOLD YOU BACK”. So your aunt doesn’t seem to take to you, like she takes to your sister Evy. You’re a boy. What about the issues she has - - and this is just an example. What if she had a daughter and lost her, either before she was born, or when she was a baby, and your sister is like the daughter she almost had, she has a couple of boys and you’re a boy. You’re not really special like that. She will never come out and say it, hey you may never even know it. Yes she is extremed that you are her brother’s son, and she loves her brother to death, your father, but none of that supercedes the tragic loss of her daughter. You see they’ll be no GIRL WEDDINGS for her. There’ll be no DAUGHTERS GRANDCHILDREN, no fixings of the hair, the pigtails, the dresses and dolls. see? It isn’t even about you. What you need to do is -
regardless of what anyone else’s agenda is - or what they think.
What do you think about yourself? What have you put in the foundation of your tomorrow? Have you been diverted from any substantial progress in your growth?
Don’t let DIVERSIONS of any kind from any place detour you from your path. Go where you need to go, and do what you need to do. As I have always felt, and stated - if you make YOURSELF BETTER, that will be the phenom, because
A better you - means everyone else around you will benefit.
This is why I tell people - there is no one born before my mother, born during my mothers current, or to be born after her dying that would have been a better mother for me than her. There is no one born before my father, the same. I had the right parents. And I know for a fact they both loved me, thru my disasters and disappointments to them, they were there for me - and my sister and they are there for me know. My mother was my theory and foundation. I have yet to meet a more positive person than her. I have met people who think the same of theirs, either a mother or father or both, and it’s a shame that all of us can’t say that…………….
do you know what kind of world we would have if that was the case?
you know the drill……….
thanks for spending a little time with me….
Sarah Palin’s 14 year old daughter - -
Posted by tolliver in My Prerogative, National & International on June 12th, 2009
David Letterman told a joke about one of Sarah Palin’s daughters, indicating that during a small break, one of the New York Yankees got her pregnant. The controversy continued as Letterman claimed the joke was about her now 18 year old daughter, and not her 14 year old daughter.
Governor Palin stated that it’s more than just what Letterman said, but more over the fact that Letterman would choose the topic of a 14 year old girl and pregnancy. She further implicated that, Letterman, and probably any comic should not reference that in their comedy routine.
I say:
If you are going to leave out 14 year old girls, why not take out the jokes of the hanging of Black men, or the bashing of gay individuals? Why not dump all the Jewish jokes, or jokes about the Iranian? And forgive me for forgetting the victims of 911 - let’s take the jokes in reference to them? There goes the comedy material for half of the jokesters in the world - You can’t just delete one group and leave the rest in - how does that work? Oh, and least me not put fat people on the list - let’s spare their feelings, or the deaf and blind -
Come on, Ms Palin
You’re a politician. That alone is a joke, NOT because you are a woman, but the whole political game is a joke. Look at the trouble this country is in, NOT BY THE DECISIONS of it’s constituents, but because of the political choices and directions the country has been allowed to go in. GO FIGURE!
This happened June 2nd, 2009 @ 5:15p.m.
This portion of the post is being added Friday morning June 12, 2009. @ 12:43p -
I happened to be washing my hands and noticed a SCAR, an oval shaped darker portion of my skin which didn’t exist before the MICROWAVE broth attack. So just imagine if you had a baby in your arms, or a small toddler was nearby and the microwave contents erupted. And the puddle of liquid that is on the glass tray/counter inside the microwave, is eruptions from the container, so it happens more often than you would think it would.
C A U T I O N is the KEY WORD in food preparation, and usage of the microwave. Please and thank you……
I am adding this portion of the post, @ 11:46 a.m., Friday morning June 5, 2009 (after the Lakers crushed Orlando - I know this has nothing to do with anything, but even though Orlando beat the Cavs, and LaBron James is my favorite all-time Cav………….. I don’t want to see the Lakers win. that’s just me - sorry!) but my hand still has a little discomfort. (Ain’t that a delicate way to put “light pain”?) I can see some discoloring, too. And I’m cooking some pasta (oh yeah!), and the steam from the water boiling/cooking the pasta, feels stronger on the hand that was attacked by the MICROWAVE bandit, “THE SCORCHER”…. than the other. CAUTION my friends, please - CAUTION!!!!
now.. the original post/blog
Somewhere I read, via an email that when you boil water by using a microwave - there is a potential of it exploding in your face. And although I hadn’t see it happen, I have been aware of the microwave sounding like it was jumping by a thumping sound inside the parameter of it, within. Sometimes I would be worried that something METAL was inside of the microwave, like, and I’m sure I’m not the only one who has tried it - but when you put aluminum foil inside the microwave, it makes an electric kind-of-thing.e sound. Or if you place a container that says it’s okay to use in a microwave, but it has a metal-ish looking rim or bottom, and sometimes you get a sound, sometimes you don’t.
Well, I don’t eat beef or pork (and not for religion & not for health - I’ll explain why …if you care to know about it… in another post), but I was heating up BEEF BROTH from the #1 soup company (maybe) and I usually do 5 minutes on soup or soup broth. By the way - no beef in it, just total broth. I’m in my bedroom, getting ready to watch some HLN (Headline News), and sip soup broth, when the contents of my cup ERUPTS like a mini-monster in a body of water - it bubbles up from the center of the glass to the top of the glass with a huge bubbling sound. So I look at the glass (actually plastic) in wonderment. My son looks at me, as if I had just seen a ghost. Then bubbles stream up the sides almost in a triangle, then erupts like a volcano. And scalds my hand, as I drop the glass onto the floor, burned from the process. It is 5:48 p.m. and my hand is still stinging, after administering some oitment on to sooth it as much as possible.
FOR ME, I’m glad I wasn’t staring into the glass, because it’s a possibility that could have reached my face or eyes, and I would have been in some real trouble.
CAUTION is the word
EXTREME CAUTION
when using the microwave - or just cooking.
Tragedy can strike INSTANTLY, even if you’re prepared for it to happen.
Just thought I would pass that on to you - so you can be careful, as you go about your chef days……………….
Always Bet On Black (Passenger 57)
Posted by tolliver in Latest, National & International on June 2nd, 2009
The most recent (Paul Moony did a comedy routine on his CD “RACE”) 1-800-Blame-A-N…Black Man was the recent pair, mother and daughter who left their homes and ended up going to Disneyland. The mother, said she was abducted by two African Americans. Even Nancy Grace proclaims…”Blame a black man??????” then refers to Susan B. Smith who killed her two young boys by letting her car go into a body of water, with them in it. That story was heartwrenching…. and it also reminds me of the Boston man who killed his wife, and shot himself, and blamed Black. And before I continue…. what would the news talk about, if there wasn’t tragedy and scandal? And how interested would be us, if there weren’t rape stories, or they didn’t shoot the war death total at the bottom of the screen, if it’s not a hot enough story - would we still watch?
After doing a search, and I didn’t delve into finding out if these figures were fact, but via the investigation, it says 70% of the crimes in America are committed by whites. (you search too, if you want to find out) but here is something that I think I can go out on a limb and say - IF THE STORY DOESN’T DIRECTLY HAVE AN EFFECT ON YOU, it’s is only entertainment to all of us. And we care less about stats - if it isn’t a direct hit on our personal lives. There are so many reasons why - the ones who need to be punished are not. I would need more that two hands if I were doing a finger count of them.
And I am being totally facetious when I say this - - - why don’t they blame the Chinese, or the Iranians? If you say the people from India did it. won’t the police believe it, or does American so want the Black man to be the root of all the ills & woes of our country. Our recent economical slide is NOT the responsibility of the Black man, fo’ sho’ - I doubt if the bulk of the decision makings of our major corps are the result of something a Black man, said or did, or didn’t say or do. Yet - he gets blamed on most of the reported false claims. What a midget isn’t capable of the credibility of a crime? And I am not poking fun at “little people”, I’m just asking why is it that a Black man is the one who gets the call…..
You know, now - you guys might want to blame-a-Leprechaun. You’re not telling the truth anyway, why not stretch that lie, to give the media something to really hoot about. And the reason I used Passenger 57 is, when some hostile sources were trying to take over an aircraft - it was John Cutter - the character - a Black man who saved the day. Although one of the passengers on the plane thought he was Arsenio Hall from Cleveland, Ohio…… (hometown, baby!)
thanks…
21,000 GM Jobs In Jeopardy…….
Posted by tolliver in My Prerogative, National & International on May 29th, 2009
First thing that I see on the news today - - - 21,000 jobs from GM in jeopardy. Going back to prior to the presidential election, industry sources say, if the economy is going to recover, it is going to be worse than what you see it is today, before we see some solid ground to build on. Isn’t that terrible? Flashing back to my days in school, even in the Jr High/Middle school days, you had guidance counselors GEARING YOU in directions they thought the world would encompass. (Is that a word, ENCOMPASS?) What I mean by that, if it isn’t IS, the jobs that would be available for those coming out of school to fulfill. And because MAN/(and do you women want to be included on this, since a lot of you are DeVOID-THE-MAN-FOR-anything-USEFUL anymore….(although James Brown said it was a Mans Mans Mans Mans world - it has never been - and you women will be the ones who turn this monkey around - trust me), MAN/WOMAN is the deciding factor - who really knows what will be in store for us, 10-15-20 years from now. So the 12 or better years you spend in school, will it be fruitful, come the harvest time in your life for productivity? Or will the decisions THEY HELP YOU MAKE be the anchor of your growth and security? And let me go out on a limb here, I don’t think anyone is going to take the blame for the paths they led you to believe would be good ones.
E V E R Y B O D Y is downsizing, cutting back, doing less, making fewer people do MORE and not even giving them a fraction of the money they are trying to save - looks like ALL OF US are getting the BIG SCREW. 5000 jobs gone here, 10,000 jobs out the window over there - 21,000 GM jobs drowning in the employment cesspool. And here’s another GRIM conclusion. We only get the places that are cutting massively - no one is talking about the 10 jobs that got chopped at Smaller company A, or the 23 jobs that were wiped out at Smaller company B, or the 400 people who got the axe at Medium-sized company D, or the 800 that got the pink slip A-LITTLE-BIT-LARGER company G. And how about the 1sy, 2-cs, the 3 over there, or the 2 over here…… no. The truer picture is a little more bleak that what we are really seeing, there are TOUGH TIMES AHEAD and gas is back on the climb. Just when you get the word, you are out on your ass, when you need that fuel to get you around to try to hang on - IT IS GOING TO COST YOU MORE…… Man are they putting the BIG FOOT down on us, like a hammer from hell! And GM stock is under $1 a share for the first time since 1933, but you know how I feel about stock. It’s a WHAT EVERYONE THINKS THE STOCK IS WORTH, not necessarily what it is worth - I hope you follow me on that - if you don’t have a clear understanding of it - just call me. Feel free, I am available 813-447-5350.
Now here is some even more terrible news. Everyone out there is not suffering. There are people who are making money on other people’s tragedies. And I guess that’s how it is in the animal world. If you are not a fast enough bird to get away - THE PREDATOR that eats that bird will have a feast, so it’s no different in the human world. Those who are not prepared will take a fall. Like I have said for years in a closing of my radio broadcast, Some of us are LIONS, some of us are sheep. Some will eat - others will be eaten. That’s the circle of existence. Those who are losing their homes, give way to those who get GREAT DEALS on that property, because it is under stress, and the banks don’t want to take the weight for everything. Remember the statistics that told you, buying property was a sure thing - people put their whole trust and hearts into their homes, WORKED THEIR ASSES OFF to pay their homes off - put in hundreds of thousands of dollars, or even if it’s only HUNDREDS of dollars - while working you paid, 240,000 in principle and interest for a house that you thought was worth $180,000 dollars and now because of the economy and the big financial institutions BLUNDERS, your home is only worth $135,000. WHO & WHAT IS GOING TO ADJUST THE DIFFERENCE for you? We are ripened for the pick, just wait. What is sad is, I think there is more tragedy coming. Not to put you in a fear mode - BUT wouldn’t you rather expect disaster and not get it, than to NOT EXPECT IT and lose everything little thing you have and it all could have been prevented? I’ve said this before - THE HAVES will NEVER really HELP or HOPE the HAVE-NOTS will walk equal with them, EVER. Never forget that - and………..
EVEN THOUGH ITS UNITED WE STAND FOR A BETTER WORLD
you better believe in reality - ITS EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF…. just watch what unfolds…..
hey - thanks for spending a little time with me….. Tolliver328@yahoo.com